Hello 👋🏼. I enjoyed reading your article and appreciate your perspective on “Moving in Silence”. I had to learn to move in silence for many different reasons. The 1st reason was that I actually had close friends speak against my ideas and not celebrate me. The 2nd reason to keep the peace within was when things did not initially go as planned. It kept the pressure off from people constantly asking about my progress. The 3rd reason is that I enjoy creating in peace. I do not see moving in silence as paranoia, but as a way to remain true to myself and what is on my heart. Sometimes, too much talking does hinder personal growth. I have learned that instead of talking so much, just do it and then celebrate with loved ones and friends. Real friends will celebrate in the end and not be jealous.
Hey thx for reading it!!❤️ I really love your input and story.
After writing this piece I have been wondering if maybe there’s a middle ground.
A friend of mine (different friend) has the same passion for writing as me and so when I decided to start posting on substack, I told her that maybe this is something she would also be interested in. We have both posted our first stories this week but haven’t shared the stories or our accounts. We just know that we both enjoy doing it and are doing it on our own. Maybe that’s the sweet spot of moving in silence?
Not all friends are able to genuinely appreciate our ideas or the way we express our creativity, and sometimes it’s better to just go with the flow and avoid pushing them for feedback. In that sense, maybe you’re both doing the right thing by giving each other some ‘unchecked creative space.’
That said, when there’s little or no trust, a friendship really struggles to survive. Feeling that a friend might not be happy about your achievements is always a sign that something is off. Maybe it’s just how they are and we hadn’t noticed before, or maybe it’s simply a difficult moment.
Connecting deeply, with real feelings, isn’t always a walk in the park. But your ability to observe dynamics will serve you well in life.
I'm just seeing this while paranoid i'm doing the same thing. ii've been narrowing my circle and now i'm at a point where it's close to none, tho it's mostly because i'm gaining too much clarity (if not paranoia lol) so fast that everyone is falling out automatically not that i'm taking these decisions personally or anything, i haven't figured anything out yet and i'm 21, so even tho i have nothing going on yet i feel like this is the most expensive time ever to waste time or thought on anything, what makes me less paranoid is that i'm not deliberately pushing anyone away oe anything, but who knows.
I completely understand what you’re saying. I feel like somewhere along the way i started expecting more from friends and i’m always the one that ends up disappointed. It makes me very wary of opening up too quickly, while also feeling like i am not doing enough to connect on a deeper level. Idk it’s very difficult to walk that line.
this is my fear, to fell out of friendship because of what i believe in. i realized that i have this kind of spiritual belief of not telling ny friends of my plans and what's going on in my life to avoid getting “jinxed” but no it's quite the opposite. if what's meant for me, meant for me. and to think that my friends are the ones that will jinx it because of their bad energy is not healthy. they are my friends for a reason, they are in my life for a reason and it's not right for me to build a wall in our friendship just because of i do not want them to know me and my life anymore. great article by the way! ❤️
I really like this piece and am extremely new to this app too- I’m glad I read this as it’s so insightful; I have had a couple of similar experiences.
One with a friend who internalised this ideology and it did end up affecting our friendship, in which, the same way as you I found out things later because she was under the presumption that everyone would be giving negative energy to her.
The second is my own experience that I’m actively trying to fight by putting myself out there by writing and speaking- in which using social media is a battle of pitting my raw authentic self out to be mocked vs a very catered version that ‘people’ cannot understand me from.
Thank you for sharing!! It’s so sad to think that one single thought can end up ruining a friendship :( and pls continue to put yourself out there! I look forward to reading your work❤️
I'm new to this platform and honestly I didn't know what this app was about. As I was scrolling through I found your work at a perfect time. This was beautifully written because it gave me a new perspective on friendship. I always try to be that mysterious friend that moves in silence because it feels safe. But recently I've noticed that not telling them what is happening in my life is putting me in a darker place. I cherish my close friends and this post got me thinking if we are actually that close then it's okay to let them in.
Hello 👋🏼. I enjoyed reading your article and appreciate your perspective on “Moving in Silence”. I had to learn to move in silence for many different reasons. The 1st reason was that I actually had close friends speak against my ideas and not celebrate me. The 2nd reason to keep the peace within was when things did not initially go as planned. It kept the pressure off from people constantly asking about my progress. The 3rd reason is that I enjoy creating in peace. I do not see moving in silence as paranoia, but as a way to remain true to myself and what is on my heart. Sometimes, too much talking does hinder personal growth. I have learned that instead of talking so much, just do it and then celebrate with loved ones and friends. Real friends will celebrate in the end and not be jealous.
Hey thx for reading it!!❤️ I really love your input and story.
After writing this piece I have been wondering if maybe there’s a middle ground.
A friend of mine (different friend) has the same passion for writing as me and so when I decided to start posting on substack, I told her that maybe this is something she would also be interested in. We have both posted our first stories this week but haven’t shared the stories or our accounts. We just know that we both enjoy doing it and are doing it on our own. Maybe that’s the sweet spot of moving in silence?
Not all friends are able to genuinely appreciate our ideas or the way we express our creativity, and sometimes it’s better to just go with the flow and avoid pushing them for feedback. In that sense, maybe you’re both doing the right thing by giving each other some ‘unchecked creative space.’
That said, when there’s little or no trust, a friendship really struggles to survive. Feeling that a friend might not be happy about your achievements is always a sign that something is off. Maybe it’s just how they are and we hadn’t noticed before, or maybe it’s simply a difficult moment.
Connecting deeply, with real feelings, isn’t always a walk in the park. But your ability to observe dynamics will serve you well in life.
Thank you Veronica!!
I'm just seeing this while paranoid i'm doing the same thing. ii've been narrowing my circle and now i'm at a point where it's close to none, tho it's mostly because i'm gaining too much clarity (if not paranoia lol) so fast that everyone is falling out automatically not that i'm taking these decisions personally or anything, i haven't figured anything out yet and i'm 21, so even tho i have nothing going on yet i feel like this is the most expensive time ever to waste time or thought on anything, what makes me less paranoid is that i'm not deliberately pushing anyone away oe anything, but who knows.
I completely understand what you’re saying. I feel like somewhere along the way i started expecting more from friends and i’m always the one that ends up disappointed. It makes me very wary of opening up too quickly, while also feeling like i am not doing enough to connect on a deeper level. Idk it’s very difficult to walk that line.
this is my fear, to fell out of friendship because of what i believe in. i realized that i have this kind of spiritual belief of not telling ny friends of my plans and what's going on in my life to avoid getting “jinxed” but no it's quite the opposite. if what's meant for me, meant for me. and to think that my friends are the ones that will jinx it because of their bad energy is not healthy. they are my friends for a reason, they are in my life for a reason and it's not right for me to build a wall in our friendship just because of i do not want them to know me and my life anymore. great article by the way! ❤️
Thank you for reading!!❤️ xx
I really like this piece and am extremely new to this app too- I’m glad I read this as it’s so insightful; I have had a couple of similar experiences.
One with a friend who internalised this ideology and it did end up affecting our friendship, in which, the same way as you I found out things later because she was under the presumption that everyone would be giving negative energy to her.
The second is my own experience that I’m actively trying to fight by putting myself out there by writing and speaking- in which using social media is a battle of pitting my raw authentic self out to be mocked vs a very catered version that ‘people’ cannot understand me from.
Thank you for sharing!! It’s so sad to think that one single thought can end up ruining a friendship :( and pls continue to put yourself out there! I look forward to reading your work❤️
I'm new to this platform and honestly I didn't know what this app was about. As I was scrolling through I found your work at a perfect time. This was beautifully written because it gave me a new perspective on friendship. I always try to be that mysterious friend that moves in silence because it feels safe. But recently I've noticed that not telling them what is happening in my life is putting me in a darker place. I cherish my close friends and this post got me thinking if we are actually that close then it's okay to let them in.
Thank you so much for your kind words❤️ I really appreciate it.
really interesting topic and a very insightful read, thank you for sharing!! :)
Thank you for reading it!!❤️